Mamas who have lost a child – today is our day to think of you and remember you. International Bereaved Mother’s Day. I wrote a piece entitled Comfortably Numb on my personal blog. I invite you to read it if you’d like. Is there anybody in there? Sometimes I wonder myself. Every time I hear … [Read more…]
I had a major breakthrough last week. I held a baby and actually enjoyed it. I enjoyed cuddling and smelling and kissing and coddling. In a way that no longer felt like my heart was ripping out and my soul was being crushed, but in an “oh you are so sweet and I want to … [Read more…]
I will be the first to admit that in the months and even probably over a year following my infant daughter’s death, I had so little compassion for people grieving the death of an old person. I just could not understand when someone went on and on about the death of someone in their 80s … [Read more…]
It’s hard to even think about taking care of yourself when you’re hurting over the loss of a child. But it’s important to take time for yourself. To find something, anything that can help you feel good, even if only for a short time. I started to really think about this question this week as … [Read more…]
Not only is it hard to know what to say and do for a grieving mother, usually it’s really difficult to ask for help when we are grieving. In the immediate aftermath, our brains can’t even wrap around what we may need to help us. How could we possibly know? Time passes, and we learn … [Read more…]
When I started blogging at No Holding Back three years ago, it was after my infant daughter died due to complications of twin to twin transfusion Syndrome (TTTS). Not only did I need an outlet for my grief, I wanted to bring as much awareness as possible to TTTS. Because for those of us who … [Read more…]
I am often asked my opinion on what people should say to someone who has just lost a child or baby. Not because I’m some kind of specialist or professional, but because of my personal experience on the issue. My usual response is that while there are No Magic Words to say to someone who … [Read more…]
Today is National Children’s Grief Awareness Day – Children and Grieving My friend, and fellow Sunshine contributor, Kathy Glow, of the blog Kissing the Frog, has been gracious enough to share a post that she wrote about talking to children about death. Kathy lost her six year old son, Joey, to pediatric cancer. He left … [Read more…]
I am collecting resources to have on a page so that when someone comes here, they will have access to any type of service they might need. It’s something I wanted to have done by now, but it is a slow process. Pregnancy and infant loss awareness month is drawing to a close. I feel … [Read more…]
Today, October 15th, we remember all those babies lost too soon. 7pm, wherever you are, please light a candle. In honor of October 15th, both books, Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother, AND Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple are FREE for Kindle.